Being Detached or being Independent! Which is the right way of living?

Why we all seek for living an independent life? Is an independent life for real? If not, then can we live our life happily by getting attached to others without suffering from the attachment?

Why we keep looking for identity and fame? Why we want people and events in our life to be in our control? Why instead of thanking the people who show us our faults, we scold them? Why we always keep on desiring without a limit? Why cannot we appreciate the people who deserve it? Why we don’t hesitate to cheat people when it is in our benefit to cheat them?

There’s a link between these two set of questions which you will come to know in this post. At one or the other point of time these questions (from both sets) may have visited your thinking nest, it is other thing that your intellect may have driven them away, but sure they came to you for answers. Didn’t they?

Okay. Let’s face them today. This is because we are all caught hold as captives by five chains of deception. They appear as gold but they are elements of spiritual poison. It eats us from within and separates us from others. It’s time that we should study this issue on subtler levels and analyze it deeper.

Whenever we feel chained by these chains of deception, we feel like we are bound, we feel like caged in our own body and we try to break these chains desperately. But what we do in real is that we break the relations. Instead of breaking the wrong medium, we break the right source. But the wrong medium stays attached to us. And once the source is broken an illusion develops that we are independent. By believing it what we do is we embrace suffering with both arms. Whole world turns wrong in our perspective. We blame everyone else for this suffering. We feel we can live alone and independently and happily. Have you ever lived happily by living an independent life? I am sure no one have. There is no such thing as independent life. There is an important difference between ‘detachment- living without attachment’ and ‘living independently’ which we ignore to notice. Let’s study it from roots.

We all are made up of atoms. We all have same ingredients required for living but just in different quantities. So the difference you see in others is just the difference of quantity of ingredients between you and them. If there was no difference, there would have been no life. Difference between these quantities is inevitable because the quantity we obtain depends upon the way we lived our life in previous lives and the types of seeds we had sown. It’s not the problem. But the problem arises when we differentiate people on the basis of these differences in quantities. This differentiation gives rise to 5 chains of deception. They are Anger, Ego, Greed, Misery and lust. These chains are always hungry and keep waiting to catch and destroy others. When we get attached to others we also attach and entangle our respective chains of deception. This attachment becomes food for these chains. That’s the real reason we all feel chained. We have entangled each other with these chains of deception but not with self-less love. This is the source of suffering. We suffer and we also become the reason of suffering of others. To escape from this suffering, a new method (wrong one) ‘Independence’ came into existence. Is independence for real? It’s not. But to make it real (at least virtually) a new system ‘Money’ came into the picture.

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Can we live independently? Just think. Can anyone live independently? You have money, so are you independent? You need food to eat. For that food you need grow food, make food, store food. Can you do all this on your own? Can you make your own clothes? Can you make your own shoes? Can you build a house alone? Then how can you call yourself independent. No one and nothing is independent in the world. We are all interconnected through our work, through atoms, through souls. But it is our mistake that we gave rise to the chains of deception and entangled ourselves with them.

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Today on the gross level it may appear to you as everyone can live their lives independently, but when we see on a subtler level, we can say that we all are connected. Our life is connected in many ways. Farmers give us food, builders builds us shelter, textiles give us clothes, transporters take us to our destiny etc.. How can we call ourselves independent? Come out of this deception.

Intellect is the commander behind the enemies of humanity like pride, anger, greed, ego and lust. It tells you that other humans are different from you and you have to live independently on your own which definitely we cannot do. It wants us to suffer. Intellect is not always right. It deceives you to make you suffer. Only when we adopt a different mode of living which is ‘living without attachment’ we can come out of this suffering. We all have to stop feeding these chains of deception by not getting attached with people through these chains of deception. It’s time we connect with people through love and through souls. It’s time that we realize the truth of Universe which is ‘Everything is in you and you are in everything’. We all are connected through souls and vibes. Once the supply to these chains of deception stops, we all can break free the chains easily as they cannot be stronger once they lose their food. We can stay connected with each other yet without any attachment and without any of the Ego, Pride, anger, greed and lust. This is what saints have taught us thousands of years ago. We have to perform actions with detachment and should not feel independent while doing them. All we need is connection with soul and through love. We don’t need attachment to desires through 5 chains of deception.

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Once we realize this small yet difficult to notice difference, that we can live happily with each other by connecting with selfless love and by not getting attached, we can letcourselves free from suffering. Detachment doesn’t mean you cannot perform actions or cannot connect with people, it simply means that you are not affected with the changes that happen in your life. The moment we feel attached, desires rise. By doing this again the chains of deception are born. So be careful, not carefree. Be connected but not attached. Be happy but not desirous. Be you, but don’t find faults in others. Perform actions, but without the attachment to the results. I know this post is difficult to digest, but once you ponder upon it, it will make sense to you.

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Yes. I am alive. I was just dead on wire (Sarcasm :P). It’s been a long time since I have written or posted anything. I was on back foot and life was driving me to umm, I don’t know where, but thank God that it dropped me today on this site once again with something to share. Just tried to share my feelings on this topic, which I rarely write upon. I was, am and always will be connected to you through my words, my soul and definitely with love. But never with an attachment which makes our connection chain-free.
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Have a beautiful day and as always, thanks for reading. Happy Maha Shiva ratri in advance. Har har mahadev.