Being Detached or being Independent! Which is the right way of living?

Why we all seek for living an independent life? Is an independent life for real? If not, then can we live our life happily by getting attached to others without suffering from the attachment?

Why we keep looking for identity and fame? Why we want people and events in our life to be in our control? Why instead of thanking the people who show us our faults, we scold them? Why we always keep on desiring without a limit? Why cannot we appreciate the people who deserve it? Why we don’t hesitate to cheat people when it is in our benefit to cheat them?

There’s a link between these two set of questions which you will come to know in this post. At one or the other point of time these questions (from both sets) may have visited your thinking nest, it is other thing that your intellect may have driven them away, but sure they came to you for answers. Didn’t they?

Okay. Let’s face them today. This is because we are all caught hold as captives by five chains of deception. They appear as gold but they are elements of spiritual poison. It eats us from within and separates us from others. It’s time that we should study this issue on subtler levels and analyze it deeper.

Whenever we feel chained by these chains of deception, we feel like we are bound, we feel like caged in our own body and we try to break these chains desperately. But what we do in real is that we break the relations. Instead of breaking the wrong medium, we break the right source. But the wrong medium stays attached to us. And once the source is broken an illusion develops that we are independent. By believing it what we do is we embrace suffering with both arms. Whole world turns wrong in our perspective. We blame everyone else for this suffering. We feel we can live alone and independently and happily. Have you ever lived happily by living an independent life? I am sure no one have. There is no such thing as independent life. There is an important difference between ‘detachment- living without attachment’ and ‘living independently’ which we ignore to notice. Let’s study it from roots.

We all are made up of atoms. We all have same ingredients required for living but just in different quantities. So the difference you see in others is just the difference of quantity of ingredients between you and them. If there was no difference, there would have been no life. Difference between these quantities is inevitable because the quantity we obtain depends upon the way we lived our life in previous lives and the types of seeds we had sown. It’s not the problem. But the problem arises when we differentiate people on the basis of these differences in quantities. This differentiation gives rise to 5 chains of deception. They are Anger, Ego, Greed, Misery and lust. These chains are always hungry and keep waiting to catch and destroy others. When we get attached to others we also attach and entangle our respective chains of deception. This attachment becomes food for these chains. That’s the real reason we all feel chained. We have entangled each other with these chains of deception but not with self-less love. This is the source of suffering. We suffer and we also become the reason of suffering of others. To escape from this suffering, a new method (wrong one) ‘Independence’ came into existence. Is independence for real? It’s not. But to make it real (at least virtually) a new system ‘Money’ came into the picture.

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Can we live independently? Just think. Can anyone live independently? You have money, so are you independent? You need food to eat. For that food you need grow food, make food, store food. Can you do all this on your own? Can you make your own clothes? Can you make your own shoes? Can you build a house alone? Then how can you call yourself independent. No one and nothing is independent in the world. We are all interconnected through our work, through atoms, through souls. But it is our mistake that we gave rise to the chains of deception and entangled ourselves with them.

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Today on the gross level it may appear to you as everyone can live their lives independently, but when we see on a subtler level, we can say that we all are connected. Our life is connected in many ways. Farmers give us food, builders builds us shelter, textiles give us clothes, transporters take us to our destiny etc.. How can we call ourselves independent? Come out of this deception.

Intellect is the commander behind the enemies of humanity like pride, anger, greed, ego and lust. It tells you that other humans are different from you and you have to live independently on your own which definitely we cannot do. It wants us to suffer. Intellect is not always right. It deceives you to make you suffer. Only when we adopt a different mode of living which is ‘living without attachment’ we can come out of this suffering. We all have to stop feeding these chains of deception by not getting attached with people through these chains of deception. It’s time we connect with people through love and through souls. It’s time that we realize the truth of Universe which is ‘Everything is in you and you are in everything’. We all are connected through souls and vibes. Once the supply to these chains of deception stops, we all can break free the chains easily as they cannot be stronger once they lose their food. We can stay connected with each other yet without any attachment and without any of the Ego, Pride, anger, greed and lust. This is what saints have taught us thousands of years ago. We have to perform actions with detachment and should not feel independent while doing them. All we need is connection with soul and through love. We don’t need attachment to desires through 5 chains of deception.

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Once we realize this small yet difficult to notice difference, that we can live happily with each other by connecting with selfless love and by not getting attached, we can letcourselves free from suffering. Detachment doesn’t mean you cannot perform actions or cannot connect with people, it simply means that you are not affected with the changes that happen in your life. The moment we feel attached, desires rise. By doing this again the chains of deception are born. So be careful, not carefree. Be connected but not attached. Be happy but not desirous. Be you, but don’t find faults in others. Perform actions, but without the attachment to the results. I know this post is difficult to digest, but once you ponder upon it, it will make sense to you.

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Yes. I am alive. I was just dead on wire (Sarcasm :P). It’s been a long time since I have written or posted anything. I was on back foot and life was driving me to umm, I don’t know where, but thank God that it dropped me today on this site once again with something to share. Just tried to share my feelings on this topic, which I rarely write upon. I was, am and always will be connected to you through my words, my soul and definitely with love. But never with an attachment which makes our connection chain-free.
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Have a beautiful day and as always, thanks for reading. Happy Maha Shiva ratri in advance. Har har mahadev.

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Emptiness

Emptiness is not just absence of everything or presence of nothing. Sometimes Emptiness also comes in presence of everything or absence of nothing..

Sometimes the feeling of emptiness is  because we desire for everything and we assume we have them.  And when we don’t get what we desire, we feel empty.

Emptiness is when you think you know everything. And when you realize there is always something which you don’t know, you feel empty.

Emptiness is when you think you own everything you have. And when you can’t buy happiness with that thing, you feel empty.

Emptiness is when you think everyone you know is yours. And when you see their different faces and varying character, you feel empty.

Emptiness is when you believe in fixed way of viewing at things. And when some things don’t match up with your view, you feel empty.

Emptiness is when you think everything around is constant. And when you see yourself in different situations, you feel empty.

Emptiness is when you attach yourself with other things. And when you realize that you have to carry them with you, every moment, you feel empty.

Emptiness is when you dream something without a goal. And when that dream doesn’t come true after a period, you feel empty.

Emptiness is when you don’t adjust your plan according to situation. And when that plan doesn’t work the way you have planned, you feel empty.

Emptiness is when you think you are superior to everyone. And when you realize you are not and there are many great people out there, you feel empty.

Emptiness is when you think time is always in your hands. And when time changes and gets out of your hand, you feel empty.

Emptiness is when you are full busy in daily schedule. And when something important pops out in between that, you feel empty.

Emptiness is when you think materialism is life. And when you feel spiritually low and mentally ill, you feel that you are empty.

Emptiness is when you look only for success. And when you realize being simple is a happier option, you feel that you are empty.

Emptiness is when you want to be famous and a star. And when you come to know being anonymous is more peaceful, you feel empty.

Emptiness is when you want to be rich. And when you realize that richer people have more enemies than friends, you feel empty.

Emptiness is when you don’t believe in God. And when you are in trouble, you don’t know whom to offer a prayer, then you feel empty.

Emptiness is when you don’t take decisions as per the requirement. And when it turns out to be a failure, you feel empty.

Emptiness is when you take a path followed by masses. And when you don’t find your destiny, you feel empty.

Emptiness is when you have a weight in your brain in the form of problems. And when you don’t write down how you feel, you feel more heavy. You feel empty.

Emptiness is when you think you will live forever. And when day by day you grow older, you feel empty.

So what did you learn? Is emptiness just absence of something or sometimes it comes even just because of presence of something! So never desire for anything just because it will benefit you in future. Do something which removes your habit of desiring. Be happy and peaceful with what you have and don’t take them for granted. Never attach yourself deeply with anything or anyone, do your duty and move. Don’t follow the path others decide for you, choose the path on which you feel you will find your destiny, but remember, your path should not hurt others. Don’t feel happy or sad because of situations and its result. Because happiness don’t come from senses or desires, it comes from spiritual development and self-satisfaction. 

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To be frank, I was feeling empty from a few days now and it was taking me away from my happiness. There was no real reason to feel empty but still I was feeling so. For just avoiding that emptiness, I filled this blog post. I think I feel better after writing this and I hope the same after you read it.

I don’t know for some reason, the comments which I make on other blogs are not showing up. They are going to the spam folder. Hope it gets resolved soon. Thanks for the support.

Thanks for reading. Stay blessed. Keep Smiling. 🙂

G is for Gossip: Day-7

“Gossip is the only form of talk after rumour which can compete the speed of light in terms of spreading.”

What’s cooking today?

Till yesterday I was thinking to write on either Genius or Gestures. But an incident which happened today morning made me to write on this topic. Gossip spreads in all directions without any purpose.

Today morning while I was having tea, one of my neighbor came to wish me happy Ugadi (celebrated here as a new year, also known as Gudi Padva). I also wished him a happy Ugadi.

Then he started it, ‘Did you read today’s newspaper? V.Kohli and Anushka Sharma are back as an unit. Yesterday they had a date night too.’ His expression was very entertaining and curious.

I said ‘No. I didn’t read about it. So what?’

Then this was his reply, ‘I am very sad for RCB this year, Kohli will not play well for RCB as they both have patched up again.’

I asked how come as I didn’t find any logic!
‘Didn’t you notice, after their break up he played so well in the T-20 world cup for India! So as they now are back, he will be out of form’ he confirmed.

And this is how gossip generates. Without any purpose, people by using their imaginative creativity, they build and make up stories and throw them in the market. They spread along with the speed of light. Social media acts as catalyst in this spreading act. But the problem is that it is not the truth. It is the fictional story of someone’s mind. But people want some spicy news so that it helps them in killing the time. They want entertainment in their life. They love gossiping for hours without any purpose and direction. Instead they should spend the time in improving some skills or they should analyze their life.

During childhood even I was involved with my friends in many gossips and spreading rumors about our teachers’ relationships even though it was half true and half was our imagination. We all hate half stories and we complete them by filling it with our own imagination. Then we had no idea whether it was good or not, but now I can say it was purposeless. Now I can say it is bad. It hurts the feelings of people under radar.

Idleness promotes Gossiping. When we have nothing to do or when we feel bored we need something readymade entertainment or else we build some story and then the easiest part spread it. Gossip it. Spread the rumours. Celebrities face the wrath of such gossips. Sometimes I wonder how celebrities handle such pressure of being an icon and handle such gossips about their personal life. Media in order to increase their TRP value, they just add spices to the normal issues. And people become victims of such issues.

We all should stay away from creating gossips or spreading gossips. Once the gossips are stopped from spreading or not given ears to, they lose the momentum. They just lose their form. Gossips die because of not having ears.

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How to stay away from gossips:
1. Remain silent when you hear gossips. Don’t spread it.
2. Don’t get your ears flapping for gossips at your work place.
3. Don’t involve in your colleague’s personal lives.
4. Don’t interrogate much in celebrities’ personal lives.
5. Gossips may also be running about you. Don’t lose the focus. Don’t give ears.
6. Stay happy and away from where gossip is cooking. Eat healthy food.

This post is my entry for A to Z challenge . It is already day 7 and it is on letter ‘G’. G is for Gossip.

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Coming to the challenge, as the name itself says it is very challenging. On every day of month April, except Sundays, which makes it to 26 days, each participant should publish a post relating to the letter corresponding to the number of the day thus completing all the 26 alphabets. For example on day 1, the post should be on something related on letter A, on the second day it should be related to B and this goes on. Exciting? Isn’t it?

And as always, thanks for reading. Have a good time. Happy Ugadi. Stop gossips from spreading if it reaches you. Be wise. Life is fuzzy.

A stranger in the mirror- By Jackie & Darshith

A story of two friends who used to meet daily, and still were strangers to each other. One day they finally thought to meet at a special place and then they became one.

There were two friends named Sapna and Kalpana. They were sitting opposite to each other with their eyes locked in each other. Even though they have met many a times before, but today for some reason they felt as strangers to each other. They felt as if they were from different worlds. As the friends are from two different worlds, we bring out this story from two different worlds of Words dipped in Happiness and Smiles here & Smiles there . As Darshith is a professional as Sapna, he will portray the story of Sapna. As my thoughts are still in search for a form, I will portray the story of Kalpana. How these two friends, become strangers and then become one? The two worlds merging into one. Our first and unique Collaboration. What’s so unique about this story? Keep reading.

Kalpana’s perspective:

Kalpana always felt as if she is just an imaginary character. She used to think that she has no life in real. There was always an dividing line between her thoughts and her ability to convert those thoughts into real life, and that dividing line was a form. She always lacked form to do anything. There was no shape for her life dimensionally. She has no existence. She lived among billions of neurons, but still her thoughts were ignored. Her passion was overflowing within, but there was no body to fill it. Just like there is lot of oxygen in this world, still you need to breath it in for respiration, similarly, even though she had a lot of passion about her life, but there was no body, no container to fill that passion. Her life was like an unsolved puzzle. She was just an illusion to her own thoughts. She was struck in between her life (imaginary) and her passion about life. She was in search of a body where her soul can fulfill her passion. She felt as if she was just a soul. She thought that her parents have given her a perfect name ‘Kalpana’ which means ‘Imaginary’ in Hindi. She was just an imagination to her own self. She was the soul, and she was in search of a body, a body to fulfill her passion. Kalpana has the wings to fly, but not a body to feel the flight. She has everything that has the power to be successful and reach the destiny, but she needs the body, the legs to walk towards destiny. She always has great admiration for her friend Sapna. Kalpana feels that Sapna has a body through which her soul can fulfill her passion. But still Kalpana is confused that why Sapna is not following her passion! What’s stopping Sapna! Kalpana just wishes that Sapna’s body becomes Kalpana’s and Kalpana’s passion become Sapna’s. But Sapna has a different set of problems. Let’s check out her life.

Sapna’s perspective:

I am a computer who walks, talks, speaks, shits & exists. I am not living. Living is attached to something that has life in it & passion to survive. Oh, I so love the word passion, even though I haven’t pursued mine. Don’t ask me WHY? Even I ask myself the same and neglect the question. As dear is the word passion to me so are the excuses. Excuses like I am busy with work, I have a life, I am in search of happiness but won’t do much to actually achieve it. My name is Sapna meaning ‘dreams’ in Hindi. I hope that my parents named me Sapna because I was a dream to them & not because they wanted me to follow my dreams. Following dreams requires wings for our passion to fly high with the wind. My passion had died and been buried deep inside my heart since the day I joined IT job. It has been nothing but a robotic schedule to be followed for 5 days a week. It’s a simple equation i.e., Intake of free biscuits + coffee should yield a code. One has to fit in that equation without being an exception. Lack of sleep, excess tensions, deadlines, issues, client calls has made life monotonous, snatched away my passion & made me emotionless and lifeless. I am searching for that silver lining, that ray of hope which will make me passionate again, which will make me alive again, bring back the lost charm. I want to stay true to my name & for that I will be meeting my friend Kalpana, who has her own set of problems. We are finally meeting today at a place she chose & today I want to open up to her & speak my doubts and fears.

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Conclusion:

After being fed up with their corresponding lives, finally Sapna and Kalpana made up their mind to meet at a place with a clear mind. And that place was the mirror. Sapna, the girl with a passionless body and Kalpana, the mirror image (Soul-fie) of Sapna with imaginary thoughts of passion without a body, were sitting opposite to each other in front of a mirror. With a clear mind without previous attachments, they felt as strangers to each other. Yes, for the first time they realized the importance of each other. They came to know that they are not made to live two different lives, but just one life. The life which makes them complete. The life which gives a body to the passion. The passion which gives wheels to the life. From that day they became one. Sapna and Kalpana turned into reality. It is whether body found the soul or soul found the body, but at last passion found its Destiny.

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It’s not about finding a soulmate at first place , first of all we have to find the inner passion of our soul. Don’t be a stranger to your mirror image.

Thanks for reading.

By Jackie jain and Darshith Badiyani

Words dipped in Happiness

Smiles here & smiles there

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Some words about my pal, DARSHITH:

He is an amazing writer. His words always brings something new into the picture. He is always textually active as his whatsapp status says. It’s been a great journey with him so far. He is always ready to listen about ideas and opinions and gives a great feedback. Thanks Darshith for being out there. I know it’s been very difficult to switch tabs between a job and this work. And our late nights thoughts are fruitful. Just wish that Kalpana and Sapna becomes one in your life too. Thanks. Check out his blog. There is lot of stuff you will feel happy about. Have a great day.
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Set free those chained thoughts

Just like we need to breathe in this moment, for life to take us to the next moment, similarly we need a little inspiration, for our time to take us into the next phase of life.

Sometimes we think too much about things which already happened in our life or things which we fear that may happen in the near future. This makes our present angry on us as we don’t give enough attention to it. Yes, our present is an attention seeker. Keep it happy. Our present is the only portal that can fulfill our dreams of tomorrow. Cherish your memories of yesterday and learn from the mistake of yesterday so that you can build new memories of tomorrow without making any wrong choices for your life.

Keep talking to yourself. What do you do keep a relation going? Keep talking, right? So keep yourself busy talking to yourself. Because no one knows about you better than your inner-self. Keep the conversations going. Build a network between your brain and heart. A bridge so that your dreams and memories can travel on it without any trouble. Let the words flowing.

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Don’t keep the words stuck in brain, they may chain down your thoughts. Let the words travel from your brain to your heart, there they can feel lighter as there are four chambers already accommodated for them.

No one is free in this world. Every one is chained with their own desires, ideas and deeds. Set the thoughts free. Don’t keep them in your brain, let them travel and make them grow. Keep yourself involved in talking with your inner-self. It will give you direction. There lies your destiny.

Thanks for reading. 

Festival time: The walls of Diwali

Diwali (11/11/15): It’s not just a festival of light emitted from the burning crackers, it’s also a festival of light shining within you because of the goodness dwelling in you. It’s not just a festival of cleaning homes, it’s a festival of cleaning all the doubts and for burning with passion.

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First of all wishing every one a very very happy Diwali. Diwali, which is known to be a festival of lights is also a festival which bring prosperity and happiness. We celebrate it by burning crackers and by offering pooja to the Goddess Lakshmi. Before the onset of Diwali every family keeps their homes clean as there is a belief that the Goddess Lakshmi visits and blesses the homes which are clean and well decorated with lights.

So let’s take one more step towards the deeper interpretation of Diwali festival. Our body, the homes in which we live literally, also needs to be blessed with happiness and prosperity. Isn’t there a need to clean our body!? Remove all the badness that has found a home in your body. Let only the good rule your body. That’s why people celebrate Diwali as even Happy new year. The death of bad within us and rebirth of good. So let’s celebrate Diwali as a festival of new birth, new mindset.

What is the significance of burning crackers on the day of Diwali? The significance of burning crackers is to remind the victory of good over bad. Even though the bad may be heavier than the good in some cases, the weight of badness itself causes it to drown in the oceans of time and makes the good victorious. It is always the good that wins over the bad and bad burn to ashes.

What’s the significance of decorating homes with diyas and worshipping Goddess Lakshmi for prosperity and happiness?
So this decoration is an indication to follow your instinct. To decorate your home with diyas means to burn your passion with confidence and spread the light within your body. To decorate your body with passion, confidence and to shine from within. To decorate your souls with flowers of goodness and sweets of happiness.

It is time to carry this flame of our passion forward to the generations to come. So let’s build the walls of Diwali, which prevents the bad to enter our body and also which keeps the good within us safe and comfortable. Let the good in you rule the homely body. Decorate your soul and shine from within. Happy diwali. Happy new year.

Thanks for reading.