Being Detached or being Independent! Which is the right way of living?

Why we all seek for living an independent life? Is an independent life for real? If not, then can we live our life happily by getting attached to others without suffering from the attachment?

Why we keep looking for identity and fame? Why we want people and events in our life to be in our control? Why instead of thanking the people who show us our faults, we scold them? Why we always keep on desiring without a limit? Why cannot we appreciate the people who deserve it? Why we don’t hesitate to cheat people when it is in our benefit to cheat them?

There’s a link between these two set of questions which you will come to know in this post. At one or the other point of time these questions (from both sets) may have visited your thinking nest, it is other thing that your intellect may have driven them away, but sure they came to you for answers. Didn’t they?

Okay. Let’s face them today. This is because we are all caught hold as captives by five chains of deception. They appear as gold but they are elements of spiritual poison. It eats us from within and separates us from others. It’s time that we should study this issue on subtler levels and analyze it deeper.

Whenever we feel chained by these chains of deception, we feel like we are bound, we feel like caged in our own body and we try to break these chains desperately. But what we do in real is that we break the relations. Instead of breaking the wrong medium, we break the right source. But the wrong medium stays attached to us. And once the source is broken an illusion develops that we are independent. By believing it what we do is we embrace suffering with both arms. Whole world turns wrong in our perspective. We blame everyone else for this suffering. We feel we can live alone and independently and happily. Have you ever lived happily by living an independent life? I am sure no one have. There is no such thing as independent life. There is an important difference between ‘detachment- living without attachment’ and ‘living independently’ which we ignore to notice. Let’s study it from roots.

We all are made up of atoms. We all have same ingredients required for living but just in different quantities. So the difference you see in others is just the difference of quantity of ingredients between you and them. If there was no difference, there would have been no life. Difference between these quantities is inevitable because the quantity we obtain depends upon the way we lived our life in previous lives and the types of seeds we had sown. It’s not the problem. But the problem arises when we differentiate people on the basis of these differences in quantities. This differentiation gives rise to 5 chains of deception. They are Anger, Ego, Greed, Misery and lust. These chains are always hungry and keep waiting to catch and destroy others. When we get attached to others we also attach and entangle our respective chains of deception. This attachment becomes food for these chains. That’s the real reason we all feel chained. We have entangled each other with these chains of deception but not with self-less love. This is the source of suffering. We suffer and we also become the reason of suffering of others. To escape from this suffering, a new method (wrong one) ‘Independence’ came into existence. Is independence for real? It’s not. But to make it real (at least virtually) a new system ‘Money’ came into the picture.

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Can we live independently? Just think. Can anyone live independently? You have money, so are you independent? You need food to eat. For that food you need grow food, make food, store food. Can you do all this on your own? Can you make your own clothes? Can you make your own shoes? Can you build a house alone? Then how can you call yourself independent. No one and nothing is independent in the world. We are all interconnected through our work, through atoms, through souls. But it is our mistake that we gave rise to the chains of deception and entangled ourselves with them.

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Today on the gross level it may appear to you as everyone can live their lives independently, but when we see on a subtler level, we can say that we all are connected. Our life is connected in many ways. Farmers give us food, builders builds us shelter, textiles give us clothes, transporters take us to our destiny etc.. How can we call ourselves independent? Come out of this deception.

Intellect is the commander behind the enemies of humanity like pride, anger, greed, ego and lust. It tells you that other humans are different from you and you have to live independently on your own which definitely we cannot do. It wants us to suffer. Intellect is not always right. It deceives you to make you suffer. Only when we adopt a different mode of living which is ‘living without attachment’ we can come out of this suffering. We all have to stop feeding these chains of deception by not getting attached with people through these chains of deception. It’s time we connect with people through love and through souls. It’s time that we realize the truth of Universe which is ‘Everything is in you and you are in everything’. We all are connected through souls and vibes. Once the supply to these chains of deception stops, we all can break free the chains easily as they cannot be stronger once they lose their food. We can stay connected with each other yet without any attachment and without any of the Ego, Pride, anger, greed and lust. This is what saints have taught us thousands of years ago. We have to perform actions with detachment and should not feel independent while doing them. All we need is connection with soul and through love. We don’t need attachment to desires through 5 chains of deception.

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Once we realize this small yet difficult to notice difference, that we can live happily with each other by connecting with selfless love and by not getting attached, we can letcourselves free from suffering. Detachment doesn’t mean you cannot perform actions or cannot connect with people, it simply means that you are not affected with the changes that happen in your life. The moment we feel attached, desires rise. By doing this again the chains of deception are born. So be careful, not carefree. Be connected but not attached. Be happy but not desirous. Be you, but don’t find faults in others. Perform actions, but without the attachment to the results. I know this post is difficult to digest, but once you ponder upon it, it will make sense to you.

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Yes. I am alive. I was just dead on wire (Sarcasm :P). It’s been a long time since I have written or posted anything. I was on back foot and life was driving me to umm, I don’t know where, but thank God that it dropped me today on this site once again with something to share. Just tried to share my feelings on this topic, which I rarely write upon. I was, am and always will be connected to you through my words, my soul and definitely with love. But never with an attachment which makes our connection chain-free.
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Have a beautiful day and as always, thanks for reading. Happy Maha Shiva ratri in advance. Har har mahadev.

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Desires create holes in our life

Desires are like machines which make holes in our lives and those holes further widen up when we try to fill those holes with our selfish efforts and aimless vision . This is the reason for emptiness in our lives. Let’s not create new holes and try to fill the existing holes with love and care for others with sefless efforts.

Desires are like obstacles to our peace and entry doors for evil in our lives. When we desire for something, we don’t see how or from where we obtain it. We become blind in the delusion of desires. We see only what we want and ignore all other elements that surround us. Desires are like traps set by evil on our path so that we can become their prey. Be careful.

When we desire for something, it creates a hole in our lives along with a slot in future timeline to receive fruits from this desire. We think (illusion) that we will fill these holes with our efforts, determination, plan and skills so that we can get what we desired. But here comes the twist. The evil energies are smart. When you desire for something and create a hole, evilness tries to tempt you by throwing a more desiring thing in the same category in your path so that your attention gets diverted from the real desire of yours to this new one. Now that former hole remain empty and you feel empty in your life. And this goes on and on as our desires keep accumulating. The hole created by one desire cannot be filled by other desire. Now say, who is responsible for creating these holes which didn’t even exist at first place!? Think on it.


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When we start feeling empty, we get confused. We don’t know why we are feeling empty, because these holes are not visible. They exist in subtle levels. Evil energies keep coming in from these holes and we don’t even know that. Our levels of anger, greediness, hatred and ego may increase to intolerable levels that we may become evil ourselves. Open your eyes. Close your holes. Love and care are the only elements which can fill these holes and stop evil from entering our lives. So give up your selfish efforts and aimless vision. Let’s fill the holes with selfless efforts and good vision. Be on the right path of spirits and let the divine and good energy flow through you.

I don’t know for some reason the comments which I make on other blogs are not showing up. They are moving into their spam instead. I have contacted Akismet for this issue and hope it gets resolved soon. 

Thanks for reading. Have a beautiful day. 🙂

To do or not to do? What’s the motive?

We often face a situation in which we get into a dilemma of whether doing a particular action is useful or whether not doing it is useful.

There are many ideologies in the world which makes each person unique and one’s perspective is different from one another. If one says that our Earth revolves around the Sun while another says that only such thoughts revolve around our mind but not in reality, latter sounds more logical though. Opinions may vary and even proof may be also one of the many possible solutions of a single problem. So it is difficult to believe what is true or what is not and what is real or what is not. But now we live in a world where we think it is difficult to distinguish even between what is right and what is wrong! This tells how far we have come and how far we have stepped away from humanity. Law and order have completely failed in guiding the humanity in a particular direction and thus it has failed in taking the world on a good and moral path. Is there a way by following which we can all feel satisfied with our actions and bring back goodness and morality in people?

The major failure of humanity is that we perform actions for the sake of results. If we predict that the result will be good, then we perform that action, if we predict that the result will be bad then we don’t perform that action. It may seem right for a moment, but just imagine who knows what our future holds and whatever we assume our results are just mere predictions not the real ones. Motive of an action is more important than the ultimate result. First thing that should be kept in our mind while performing an action is the motive of the action, not the result of the action as result is just our aim not the vision itself. Let’s take a recent example, in our India, Olympic medal winners have been gifted BMW by Sachin Tendulkar for their extraordinary performances. But if they had performed just for sake of that, then their performance would have been affected as their actions may have been distracted from the motive to perform well towards results to win at any cost. As I have said, opinions may vary.

So when you fix motive in your mind, you get there and when you fix result in your mind, you reach no where. Money is not the motive, it is just the fruit of the result. * For example when we get a job, what do most people ask! Is it What is your job about? or is it How much is your salary? * Haven’t you experienced this? Think upon it, how backwards we are travelling nowadays as humanity. People don’t care about what you do, they care about what you get for doing that. This was just one of many examples. We need to set out our motive to do good for others in a good way and improving humanity in us. Motive should be decided on whether doing an action will improve one’s capabilities without hurting others or not and whether it will benefit others or not. Because there is a special feeling of self-satisfaction when we do good to others.

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We live in a world where unless we show the fruits of the result, we don’t perform a particular action. Will you work for the cause of humanity if the result is nothing but just self-satisfaction? I know most of us won’t. Because we are not brought up that way. We work for results but not motive. When the reason of doing an action is good, then the result will turn out to be good. But when your reason for doing an action is wrong at the first place, do you think even the good result will do good to you? No way. From the day when the people in the world will learn to perform an action with a good motive rather than for a unknown good result, then we will be back on the track on the humanity. For example don’t aim to be a successful or a failure, because when you aim for success automatically failure becomes negative to you. But when your motive is improvement rather than success or failure, then you will never fail. And isn’t improvement better than success?

Sometimes ‘good’ motive may also lead to bad results. So what is the problem here? What is ‘good’ here? Is good a good thing only when it does good to the person doing it? No. It’s not. A good thing for one person may not be good to others. This is a very complex issue and should be taken on a global level. For that ‘good’ should be considered as good only when it helps others to become better as a person and makes them feel satisfied too with the motive. So motive should be good so that it brings goodness for everyone on a large scale and concentration should be on motive rather than the result. If we give up our desires and work towards upbringing the social, moral, religious and human values, then we may know the importance of good motive. We are in a situation where all these values are at record low. Isn’t it more important to work for improvement (better say re-birth) of humanity (motive) rather than thinking that it is impossible to change our entire world with such actions (assumed result)!!

If everyone thinks oneself as the center of the universe and make his motive of his actions as upbringing of the whole society for a good cause rather than worrying about the result, then we may see the world which we all want to be in. The insecurity of future makes us work for result rather than motive. But our confidence in present makes us work for motive rather than the result. Think about good things and make them as the motive to bring good in the world, don’t think about good things which you need personally as it will become a problem for others on a global scale. Because if the intention is good, nature tries to bring it in reality and if intention of an action is not good, even then nature being helpless brings that into reality. So be careful while doing an action. If doing good to others is everyone’s motive, then the purpose of humanity will be served. Life is simple but complexities begin when the motive to live life becomes wrong.

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Thanks for reading. I know it was a long read, but while writing this, my reason for writing this was more important than the word count it may end up with. Think about your motive rather than the result while performing an action. Have a great week ahead. 🙂

Heal the world

Before healing the world, we have to heal our minds first, so that not only the world heals physically but also mentally. 

When I see the world around which is getting divided due to the differences in religion, race and nationality, it hurts me inside out. We all are humans first and everything else comes next! When will we, the people, realize this? In India we are dividing ourselves due to Religion again because of some clippings and in America people are getting divided on the base of color due to some disturbing incidents. Why we spread hatred? We all believe that every life matters. We the people are not conscious that we all are being diverted. We are being divided for no reason. Instead of fighting for justice we are fighting with each other. There is always a hidden agenda which we miss to understand. Once we all make up our minds that we won’t give to any topic which divides the people in the name of religion, race and religion we will win the world. We all should fight for justice without any division among humans. 

Where is the progress in this world? You may say that in technology, entertainment, infrastructure! But where is the spiritual development? Where is peace and satisfaction among us? Why we run everyday and still don’t reach where we want to be. We are in a world where everyone is getting obsessed with money in such a way that they will do anything for the sake of it. Corruption, robbery are at so record high that they have touched the sky. It’s time to break the dome. We all have to stand together and make this world a livable place. We cannot decide the character of a person just by seeing at the value-less paper they have in their treasures, but on the priceless love they have in their hearts. Please guys, stop making issues on news to further divide ourselves. Spread positivity and happiness. Love each other with the divine principle of humanity. Don’t we all want peace in world? Don’t we, irrespective of our religion, color, nation, status and mindset? Few people who do this I don’t understand what is their motive behind doing this! Remember, once we all as humanity step up, there will not be any instability as they all are looking for. Even the nature has started to respond to us by increasing the natural disasters. Wake up people, not with eyes but with heart this time. Global warming may be due to our hatred which is red and burning with greed. It is Melting ice and happiness. Time to stop it. Time to cool our minds.

I don’t understand why we all hate each other? Greed, misery, hatred and ego are some of the factors which have lead us to a situation where we are heading nowhere. We are not progressing towards a developed society. We all are circling around our problems by moving round and round without a solution. It’s time for a change. We don’t have to change the facts, we have to change the way we look at them. We have to make a move, now. Before we lose control on things like fear, hatred and greed and they start to control us, we all have to stand together as a team as a group against all that is evil in the world. Evil doesn’t win because it is powerful, evil wins because good is not resisting them. Let us all clear our brainwashed minds and think on every issue as open minded. See not what they show, see what doesn’t want to show. Once we all grow our conscious level, everything will be simple and truth will be right infront of our eye. We won’t let them divide ourselves, we are all connected with the bond of humanity, we all share the same air. Let’s add love be in this air so we can pave a beautiful path for the future generations. 

OK. Let’s start with this. First let us all extirpate the hatred we have for others in our minds. Let’s purify it first. Next see everyone with the eyes of heart, so everyone appears as soul with body not like a body with soul. Because soul has no religion, color, race and greed. It has only one purpose to see the good in others and work for good of others. We should not spread our words with hatred but with love and peace. Debate is not for winning it, it is for a solution. So yes, let’s find a solution. It lies somewhere within you, in clear minds and pure hearts. 

I think I found this prompt at the right time. I needed to give shape to my thoughts. This is written for the Write Over the Weekend prompt of BlogAdda. Heal the world. What are your views?

‘This post is a part of Write Over the Weekend, an initiative for Indian Bloggers by BlogAdda‘.

G is for Gossip: Day-7

“Gossip is the only form of talk after rumour which can compete the speed of light in terms of spreading.”

What’s cooking today?

Till yesterday I was thinking to write on either Genius or Gestures. But an incident which happened today morning made me to write on this topic. Gossip spreads in all directions without any purpose.

Today morning while I was having tea, one of my neighbor came to wish me happy Ugadi (celebrated here as a new year, also known as Gudi Padva). I also wished him a happy Ugadi.

Then he started it, ‘Did you read today’s newspaper? V.Kohli and Anushka Sharma are back as an unit. Yesterday they had a date night too.’ His expression was very entertaining and curious.

I said ‘No. I didn’t read about it. So what?’

Then this was his reply, ‘I am very sad for RCB this year, Kohli will not play well for RCB as they both have patched up again.’

I asked how come as I didn’t find any logic!
‘Didn’t you notice, after their break up he played so well in the T-20 world cup for India! So as they now are back, he will be out of form’ he confirmed.

And this is how gossip generates. Without any purpose, people by using their imaginative creativity, they build and make up stories and throw them in the market. They spread along with the speed of light. Social media acts as catalyst in this spreading act. But the problem is that it is not the truth. It is the fictional story of someone’s mind. But people want some spicy news so that it helps them in killing the time. They want entertainment in their life. They love gossiping for hours without any purpose and direction. Instead they should spend the time in improving some skills or they should analyze their life.

During childhood even I was involved with my friends in many gossips and spreading rumors about our teachers’ relationships even though it was half true and half was our imagination. We all hate half stories and we complete them by filling it with our own imagination. Then we had no idea whether it was good or not, but now I can say it was purposeless. Now I can say it is bad. It hurts the feelings of people under radar.

Idleness promotes Gossiping. When we have nothing to do or when we feel bored we need something readymade entertainment or else we build some story and then the easiest part spread it. Gossip it. Spread the rumours. Celebrities face the wrath of such gossips. Sometimes I wonder how celebrities handle such pressure of being an icon and handle such gossips about their personal life. Media in order to increase their TRP value, they just add spices to the normal issues. And people become victims of such issues.

We all should stay away from creating gossips or spreading gossips. Once the gossips are stopped from spreading or not given ears to, they lose the momentum. They just lose their form. Gossips die because of not having ears.

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How to stay away from gossips:
1. Remain silent when you hear gossips. Don’t spread it.
2. Don’t get your ears flapping for gossips at your work place.
3. Don’t involve in your colleague’s personal lives.
4. Don’t interrogate much in celebrities’ personal lives.
5. Gossips may also be running about you. Don’t lose the focus. Don’t give ears.
6. Stay happy and away from where gossip is cooking. Eat healthy food.

This post is my entry for A to Z challenge . It is already day 7 and it is on letter ‘G’. G is for Gossip.

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Coming to the challenge, as the name itself says it is very challenging. On every day of month April, except Sundays, which makes it to 26 days, each participant should publish a post relating to the letter corresponding to the number of the day thus completing all the 26 alphabets. For example on day 1, the post should be on something related on letter A, on the second day it should be related to B and this goes on. Exciting? Isn’t it?

And as always, thanks for reading. Have a good time. Happy Ugadi. Stop gossips from spreading if it reaches you. Be wise. Life is fuzzy.

The season of Decisions: Decide in unison

2016, the digits sums up to nine,
Just to tell that, this time everything is gonna be fine.
Stand up facing the sky with both your hands spread wide and say, this time is mine,
And see all your cosmic stars fall in line.

With time, they say, some things go extinct, because they are no longer remembered or just because they can no longer survive in the world. I am not talking about dinosaurs, it’s about peace and happiness. We lost them somewhere on the track of developing ourselves, somewhere where we can never find, with our open eyes. In a world where the speed of activities are trying to sync with the rotation of earth around the sun.

It’s time to close the eyes and seek for that inner peace and happiness. Only in that darkness you can find the light, the light formed by your cosmic stars, formed by your passion. Your destiny is just a decision away.

Everything depends on a decision, as it is wonderfully said by Tony Robbins that “In the moments of decision, your destiny is shaped”.
Internet, though it made the world small by Connecting everyone beyond boundaries through it, it is still not able to make the hearts bigger by accepting the People the way they are. Not judging anyone depending upon the places and Religions is the basic requirement of that. So it’s new year, let’s make this decision, as it is the season to take decisions. Not to divide people according to their religions, because religions are just different languages to understand the one supreme power, the creator, GOD. Religions are not different worlds of God, they are just different ladders to reach the one God.

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Just like a pyramid, though there are many starting points at the bottom, they all reach one point, one common point as they climb to its top. Same are all the religions. Though there are different ways to climb, the destiny of that journey is same. So what’s the use of dividing people on the basis of religions?

We all speak different languages. Still water means Water in English, Wasser means Water in German, Paani means water in Hindi. Even though we spell them and pronounce them differently, the meaning of the word doesn’t change. Such are the religions. Different languages to understand the same meaning of the one and only God.

The season of Decisions has already begun, why to sit back and follow the time. Stand up and lead the time. Yes, let us all take this Decision in Unison. To stop dividing people on the basis of religions, or by any other means. That will give us back the happiness and peace which we have lost on the track, because dividing people divides our heart which in turn divides our happiness and inner peace into small pieces which we can’t see. Once we stop dividing, we can get back our happiness and inner peace. Let’s make the world independent.

“The real independence is the freedom from dividing people on the basis of religions.”

Thanks for reading. Deciding??