Being Detached or being Independent! Which is the right way of living?

Why we all seek for living an independent life? Is an independent life for real? If not, then can we live our life happily by getting attached to others without suffering from the attachment?

Why we keep looking for identity and fame? Why we want people and events in our life to be in our control? Why instead of thanking the people who show us our faults, we scold them? Why we always keep on desiring without a limit? Why cannot we appreciate the people who deserve it? Why we don’t hesitate to cheat people when it is in our benefit to cheat them?

There’s a link between these two set of questions which you will come to know in this post. At one or the other point of time these questions (from both sets) may have visited your thinking nest, it is other thing that your intellect may have driven them away, but sure they came to you for answers. Didn’t they?

Okay. Let’s face them today. This is because we are all caught hold as captives by five chains of deception. They appear as gold but they are elements of spiritual poison. It eats us from within and separates us from others. It’s time that we should study this issue on subtler levels and analyze it deeper.

Whenever we feel chained by these chains of deception, we feel like we are bound, we feel like caged in our own body and we try to break these chains desperately. But what we do in real is that we break the relations. Instead of breaking the wrong medium, we break the right source. But the wrong medium stays attached to us. And once the source is broken an illusion develops that we are independent. By believing it what we do is we embrace suffering with both arms. Whole world turns wrong in our perspective. We blame everyone else for this suffering. We feel we can live alone and independently and happily. Have you ever lived happily by living an independent life? I am sure no one have. There is no such thing as independent life. There is an important difference between ‘detachment- living without attachment’ and ‘living independently’ which we ignore to notice. Let’s study it from roots.

We all are made up of atoms. We all have same ingredients required for living but just in different quantities. So the difference you see in others is just the difference of quantity of ingredients between you and them. If there was no difference, there would have been no life. Difference between these quantities is inevitable because the quantity we obtain depends upon the way we lived our life in previous lives and the types of seeds we had sown. It’s not the problem. But the problem arises when we differentiate people on the basis of these differences in quantities. This differentiation gives rise to 5 chains of deception. They are Anger, Ego, Greed, Misery and lust. These chains are always hungry and keep waiting to catch and destroy others. When we get attached to others we also attach and entangle our respective chains of deception. This attachment becomes food for these chains. That’s the real reason we all feel chained. We have entangled each other with these chains of deception but not with self-less love. This is the source of suffering. We suffer and we also become the reason of suffering of others. To escape from this suffering, a new method (wrong one) ‘Independence’ came into existence. Is independence for real? It’s not. But to make it real (at least virtually) a new system ‘Money’ came into the picture.

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Can we live independently? Just think. Can anyone live independently? You have money, so are you independent? You need food to eat. For that food you need grow food, make food, store food. Can you do all this on your own? Can you make your own clothes? Can you make your own shoes? Can you build a house alone? Then how can you call yourself independent. No one and nothing is independent in the world. We are all interconnected through our work, through atoms, through souls. But it is our mistake that we gave rise to the chains of deception and entangled ourselves with them.

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Today on the gross level it may appear to you as everyone can live their lives independently, but when we see on a subtler level, we can say that we all are connected. Our life is connected in many ways. Farmers give us food, builders builds us shelter, textiles give us clothes, transporters take us to our destiny etc.. How can we call ourselves independent? Come out of this deception.

Intellect is the commander behind the enemies of humanity like pride, anger, greed, ego and lust. It tells you that other humans are different from you and you have to live independently on your own which definitely we cannot do. It wants us to suffer. Intellect is not always right. It deceives you to make you suffer. Only when we adopt a different mode of living which is ‘living without attachment’ we can come out of this suffering. We all have to stop feeding these chains of deception by not getting attached with people through these chains of deception. It’s time we connect with people through love and through souls. It’s time that we realize the truth of Universe which is ‘Everything is in you and you are in everything’. We all are connected through souls and vibes. Once the supply to these chains of deception stops, we all can break free the chains easily as they cannot be stronger once they lose their food. We can stay connected with each other yet without any attachment and without any of the Ego, Pride, anger, greed and lust. This is what saints have taught us thousands of years ago. We have to perform actions with detachment and should not feel independent while doing them. All we need is connection with soul and through love. We don’t need attachment to desires through 5 chains of deception.

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Once we realize this small yet difficult to notice difference, that we can live happily with each other by connecting with selfless love and by not getting attached, we can letcourselves free from suffering. Detachment doesn’t mean you cannot perform actions or cannot connect with people, it simply means that you are not affected with the changes that happen in your life. The moment we feel attached, desires rise. By doing this again the chains of deception are born. So be careful, not carefree. Be connected but not attached. Be happy but not desirous. Be you, but don’t find faults in others. Perform actions, but without the attachment to the results. I know this post is difficult to digest, but once you ponder upon it, it will make sense to you.

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Yes. I am alive. I was just dead on wire (Sarcasm :P). It’s been a long time since I have written or posted anything. I was on back foot and life was driving me to umm, I don’t know where, but thank God that it dropped me today on this site once again with something to share. Just tried to share my feelings on this topic, which I rarely write upon. I was, am and always will be connected to you through my words, my soul and definitely with love. But never with an attachment which makes our connection chain-free.
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Have a beautiful day and as always, thanks for reading. Happy Maha Shiva ratri in advance. Har har mahadev.

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N is for NINE: Day-14

* By being NATURAL we respect the NATURE and also by show off, we can attract eyes, NOT hearts.

* By being NEUTRAL to the sufferings and desires, we can attain the state of NIRVANA.

* By increasing our NETWORKS, we can establish a NEXUS with other people. Because connecting with others and their lives is a good feeling.

* To work for what is NECESSARY is important than working for what you NEED.

* Say NO to NONSENSE and NEVER to NEGATIVITY.

* In NEBULOUS times, hold your NERVE. Clouds of doubts will disappear and drops of NECTAR will fall.

* It’s not your NAME that defines you, it’s the way you NARRATE your life.

* Be NORMAL even when your achievement’s NUMBERS make NEWS.

* Take NUTRITIOUS food and work NIMBLY.

Follow these NINE points and NAVIGATE your life well towards destiny. Because it’s NOW or NEVER.

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This is my entry for A to Z challenge . It is already day 14 and it is on the letter ‘N’. ‘N’ is for NINE points.

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Coming to the challenge, as the name itself says it is very challenging. On every day of month April, except Sundays, which makes it to 26 days, each participant should publish a post relating to the letter corresponding to the number of the day thus completing all the 26 alphabets. For example on day 1, the post should be on something related on letter A, on the second day it should be related to B and this goes on. Exciting? Isn’t it?

And as always, thanks for reading. Have a happy Sunday. And now the climate is melting my thoughts too. It’s getting hotter.

L is for Language: Day-12

“Only a language can make all of us travel on the same frequency in order to express our thoughts, goals and ramblings with one another on a common medium. Without a language it would have been impossible to write, speak or even express anything meaningfully.”

Language is the medium through which we communicate. Even though we don’t take it seriously, just imagine what if there was no language, signs and alphabets! Just imagine how we would have communicated with our family, friends and strangers. Why to go to that extent, just imagine how would you have understood or talked to your own self. Getting to the point, right? How would you communicate with yourself without any medium? No thoughts, no idea, no expressions, no language! It would have made us isolated from everyone, even ourselves. But only one language which is less taught at school, is Love, it could speak, write and express beyond boundaries. It doesn’t need alphabets, it need just feelings, only love.

But to communicate we need language, which we have in plenty, that’s a great thing. But why people see the people who doesn’t know English as illiterates! I mean why people who can express their feelings in their mother tongue cannot be treated equally. They should be encouraged to learn the language. Languages are just a medium to communicate with people not to divide or embarrass people. I remember there were friends during my Engineering days who were not able to speak or write in English properly. They were seen as under dogs. I wanted to help them, many of us wanted to help them. I remember explaining them Laplace transforms and digital circuits in our local language, Telugu. And they were highly talented. They grasped the concepts quickly. They know they just need a language to express it. We all need a language to express. . Language how simple and complex at the same time, is essential for communication. One common shared language is enough to carry a relationship forever. If an understanding is established between the people, then it is enough for a language, its purpose is served.

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To all the people of the globe, doesn’t matter whether you know English or not, we all are connected by the language of love, language of humanity. Thank you.

This is my entry for A to Z challenge . It is already day 12 and it is on the letter ‘L’. ‘L’ is for language. Learn expressing things in language of love, by helping people in need.

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Coming to the challenge, as the name itself says it is very challenging. On every day of month April, except Sundays, which makes it to 26 days, each participant should publish a post relating to the letter corresponding to the number of the day thus completing all the 26 alphabets. For example on day 1, the post should be on something related on letter A, on the second day it should be related to B and this goes on. Exciting? Isn’t it?

And as always, thanks for reading. Have a great week ahead. Learn different languages, it is like living life with an another soul. By learning languages we can learn about different cultures.

J is for Jumble: Day-10

“Life is like a jigsaw puzzle with thoughts being the jumbled pieces and its outcome depends only on the way you arrange the pieces of this puzzle one by one in order.”

Our life is a puzzle, with puzzle pieces being different time frames and situations. We have to be active and observe the pattern between them. We have to take actions according to that and have to wait for the fruitful outcome. We cannot change the pieces of our life, but we can change the situations by being optimistic during dark times and bringing different outcome out of it, a bright one. Life is nothing but a lifeless path if not lived with struggles. Struggles may be mental, situational, spiritual, personal or social. It takes one positive angle to jumble all the bad pieces into a good outcome of the puzzle.

When it comes to solve this puzzle, the jumbled pieces are also our thoughts. Yes, they are jumbled and not in order which makes our life order less. Just by governing our thoughts and directing them towards our purpose and goal, we can make our life more productive and effective. It requires sheer confidence to face the challenges and the dark times. It is all about resilience, the ability to bounce back when you hit the bottom. It is the comeback from a situation and arranging things back in the order.

And sometimes our missing pieces of puzzle are stored in the people we come across. We learn from them and take this piece from them and arrange in our life to gain back the order. That’s why unity is important. To become whole, to become complete. Life is the all about finding pieces and arranging back them in order to make it worth living.

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I have been juggling a lot of things from April, after returning from the trip of Rajasthan. I am still to settle back to normal life after coming home. May be that’s why I am not able to read and interact much, recently. Just have to arranges things, the missing pieces, the jumbled pieces back in order.

This is my entry for A to Z challenge . It is already day 10 and it is on the letter ‘J’. ‘J’ is for Jumble. Rearrange the jumbled pieces in order.

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Coming to the challenge, as the name itself says it is very challenging. On every day of month April, except Sundays, which makes it to 26 days, each participant should publish a post relating to the letter corresponding to the number of the day thus completing all the 26 alphabets. For example on day 1, the post should be on something related on letter A, on the second day it should be related to B and this goes on. Exciting? Isn’t it?

And as always, thanks for reading. Just hope that your jumbled pieces arrange back in order to make it meaningful. Have a great week ahead.

G is for Gossip: Day-7

“Gossip is the only form of talk after rumour which can compete the speed of light in terms of spreading.”

What’s cooking today?

Till yesterday I was thinking to write on either Genius or Gestures. But an incident which happened today morning made me to write on this topic. Gossip spreads in all directions without any purpose.

Today morning while I was having tea, one of my neighbor came to wish me happy Ugadi (celebrated here as a new year, also known as Gudi Padva). I also wished him a happy Ugadi.

Then he started it, ‘Did you read today’s newspaper? V.Kohli and Anushka Sharma are back as an unit. Yesterday they had a date night too.’ His expression was very entertaining and curious.

I said ‘No. I didn’t read about it. So what?’

Then this was his reply, ‘I am very sad for RCB this year, Kohli will not play well for RCB as they both have patched up again.’

I asked how come as I didn’t find any logic!
‘Didn’t you notice, after their break up he played so well in the T-20 world cup for India! So as they now are back, he will be out of form’ he confirmed.

And this is how gossip generates. Without any purpose, people by using their imaginative creativity, they build and make up stories and throw them in the market. They spread along with the speed of light. Social media acts as catalyst in this spreading act. But the problem is that it is not the truth. It is the fictional story of someone’s mind. But people want some spicy news so that it helps them in killing the time. They want entertainment in their life. They love gossiping for hours without any purpose and direction. Instead they should spend the time in improving some skills or they should analyze their life.

During childhood even I was involved with my friends in many gossips and spreading rumors about our teachers’ relationships even though it was half true and half was our imagination. We all hate half stories and we complete them by filling it with our own imagination. Then we had no idea whether it was good or not, but now I can say it was purposeless. Now I can say it is bad. It hurts the feelings of people under radar.

Idleness promotes Gossiping. When we have nothing to do or when we feel bored we need something readymade entertainment or else we build some story and then the easiest part spread it. Gossip it. Spread the rumours. Celebrities face the wrath of such gossips. Sometimes I wonder how celebrities handle such pressure of being an icon and handle such gossips about their personal life. Media in order to increase their TRP value, they just add spices to the normal issues. And people become victims of such issues.

We all should stay away from creating gossips or spreading gossips. Once the gossips are stopped from spreading or not given ears to, they lose the momentum. They just lose their form. Gossips die because of not having ears.

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How to stay away from gossips:
1. Remain silent when you hear gossips. Don’t spread it.
2. Don’t get your ears flapping for gossips at your work place.
3. Don’t involve in your colleague’s personal lives.
4. Don’t interrogate much in celebrities’ personal lives.
5. Gossips may also be running about you. Don’t lose the focus. Don’t give ears.
6. Stay happy and away from where gossip is cooking. Eat healthy food.

This post is my entry for A to Z challenge . It is already day 7 and it is on letter ‘G’. G is for Gossip.

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Coming to the challenge, as the name itself says it is very challenging. On every day of month April, except Sundays, which makes it to 26 days, each participant should publish a post relating to the letter corresponding to the number of the day thus completing all the 26 alphabets. For example on day 1, the post should be on something related on letter A, on the second day it should be related to B and this goes on. Exciting? Isn’t it?

And as always, thanks for reading. Have a good time. Happy Ugadi. Stop gossips from spreading if it reaches you. Be wise. Life is fuzzy.

E is for Ego: Day-5

“Hey my Ego,
It’s your time to go,
back into your inferno.”

How it feels when someone’s ego finds a place in our heart’s feelings? It feels the same when our own ego finds a place in someone else’s heart! It is painful, believe me.

Ego is the messenger from hell which came here to divide the humans and make us hate each other. It disguised itself in the form of pride without our conscience and now we feel proud of ego. We have invited ego not only in our lives but also into our minds. But wait, are you aware? When ego entered our brain, our brain tried to save us. It sent a signal of danger. A notification popped in our brain saying pride wants to access these of the following.
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* Your success
* Your happiness
* Your power.

Click here to read more.
(Terms and conditions)

Click here to accept
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We never read the terms and conditions (do we?) in which it states that it will control your thoughts, your feelings, your anger and your life. We just accept the pride (in real, ego disguised in the name of pride) blindly into our minds after seeing good things at the beginning. And then what? See the world around us. There is no mental peace and physical stability. We are all being controlled by this false pride and its masters. Our freedom has been stolen and we are their slaves.

Still there is a option to save ourselves from this cruel and monopolistic rule. Switch off your brain from thoughts for a while and then uninstall pride from your mind (before it knows you are doing so) and never accept and install it again. So simple? But in modern days, simple is complex. We are used to complex things and when we come across simple things, we think there is something wrong in them, it can’t be that simple. But in real, it is simple. Mind is making it complex as ego rests in it and controlling our thoughts. Ego is sitting happily in our brain because it knows we will never oppose them. Prove it wrong. Face your ego and destroy it into pieces. That’s the way to attain peace.

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Send your Ego back

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Send Ego back to its inferno. We as humans are all united and love each other. No other messenger from hell can dare to divide us again. Send a strong message to out them, ‘We are all united as humans here’.

This post is my entry for A to Z challenge . It is already day 5 and it is on letter ‘E’. E is for Ego. It is ego’s time to go. Hope you liked it.

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Coming to the challenge, as the name itself says it is very challenging. On every day of month April, except Sundays, which makes it to 26 days, each participant should publish a post relating to the letter corresponding to the number of the day thus completing all the 26 alphabets. For example on day 1, the post should be on something related on letter A, on the second day it should be related to B and this goes on. Exciting? Isn’t it?

And as always, thanks for reading. Have a good time. Send back your ego to its inferno, else it will make your life as an inferno. Save yourself, save our world.